Control (as is the way of the ego) is the primary obstacle to the supreme enjoyment of life itself. An existence besieged by effort, and habitual survival maintenance inhibits the individual's ability to be receptive to the natural flow of grace which otherwise enters freely into life. As with all suffering, the need to control is based upon erroneous identification.

This misidentification necessitates things being a certain way for the individual to feel remotely comfortable or at ease in any given situation. The ego will continually seek out means to ensure that this superficial state of equilibrium remains undisturbed. Whilst this contraction exists there is no openness, and whilst there is no openness one cannot be touched by Grace. By withdrawing the investment in things having to be a certain way for happiness to be present we allow the flow of life to carry us effortlessly to our destiny.

Regardless of the ego's trend toward control and manipulation of both internal and external realms, Grace (being what it Is) will eventually find its way by softly ebbing away at the resistances of the egoic way.
When the ego eventually surrenders its countless predilections and the drama of its existence, then grace manifests fully into 'life' like mother's milk flowing abundant and rich, perfectly formulated for the infant's growth.

Effortlessly given, effortlessly received.

Grace Is Always Everywhere